Happy World Adoption Day from a family fresh in the game.
We are fresh in the insecurities and unknowns. Fresh in the waiting. Fresh in the excitement. Fresh in the learning.
Only a few months deep and we are already learning how to wait and trust. We are learning to trust the process and the people. Learning to trust that God has known our family make up long before we even arrived at this decision.
Days like today are such tangible reminders that we are not the firsts to walk this road, nor will we be the last. There are many others that chose this hard road and that have sat in the low valleys and high mountaintops that comprise the complexity of adoption.
This process takes grit. We have been blessed with opportunities in our life to strengthen our grit. Those blessings were painful and hard. Losing my mom and walking this year with Jon's job loss and process has broken us down to the studs and foundation. Complete rehab. Big questions and not a lot of answers. I am so thankful for a firm and strong foundation that did not break or even tremble in those seasons. I am thankful for our joint foundation that was big enough to hold a lot of tears and heartbreak, while still clinging to hope and goodness.
So we are counting on that foundation and rehab to be able to weather the ups and downs of this storm with grace and sarcasm. Because that's how we do. Gotta cope somehow.
Despite being told we would have an interview by now for the child we pursued... we have not. And even though we hauled you know what to submit all of our home study paperwork to help it go as quickly as possible, our social worker did not have availability that matched with ours until November 17, over three weeks after we submitted everything and paid for our home study. The pieces we thought we could control and expedite feel so, so slow.
But it doesn't matter. We are here. Sitting in the mess and the process. We will do our part and cling to hope that if this wee one is ours, that they will be in our arms at the exact moment they are meant to be. And if we are not the family for them, it is because our son or daughter is still in the world.
It is well.
With our home study nearly complete, we are asking if you would be wiling or able to partner with us in prayer and tangible ways. We are working on firming up a venue for a raffle fundraiser in February. Do you or someone you know have items we could raffle? Do you own your own small business and could you put together a basket? Willing to share your vacation home or season tickets with us? Do you know businesses willing to donate that you would be willing to share with me? Want to host something in your home for us? We are having a garage sale in the first or second week of June. Do you have anything you would be willing to part with for us to sell? Would you be willing to contribute to our tax deductible fundraiser through adopt together? These are humongous, uncomfortable asks for this humongous, uncomfortable process we are undertaking.
I am thankful to have a community to pose these questions to. I am thankful that life is not meant to be lived alone, and journeys are meant to be walked arm in arm.
So today we celebrate a day and join hands and smiles with many families further ahead. May we link arms with them and may they pull us forward with encouragement and hope, and remind us of the treasure at the end of the journey. For those who this journey is not meant for; can you continue to shove us along and cheer us on from the sidelines as we get tired and our sarcasm outweighs our grace? Remind us we are not alone, and together we can do big, good things.
In our family we believe love will win, all lives have value, and children belong in families. We have been given an abundance, and abundance is meant to be shared.
Happy World Adoption Day!
PS we do still have Asher but he is sick and refused to participate in our photo-op :)